Make her feel WANTED!!

I wrote this a while back but recent events made me go back and reread it!!! So I decided to post it again!!

 

In the beginning “it’s all good” you are both clicking on the same page and everything seems to be going perfect. You spend countless hours together and you always seem to be “on the town”. You have wooed her with fine dining, movies, concerts, etc and she starts to think you are everything that she has ever wanted…then you stop!!!

 

So now you all are fussing and fighting over every little thing and you say she is “tripping” about whatever. In reality she is tripping because she was tricked. You tricked her into thinking you could take care of her every need. (freaks get ya mind out the gutter that’s not the only need) She was bamboozled into taking a chance and giving her heart to someone who she thought would treat it with care.

 

Now she doesn’t do what she used to do for you and you start to question what happened? You start to question her faithfulness and her every move. You figure there has to be some other guy (or girl) who has come in and swept her off her feet. She starts coming  in a little later and now you sit at home and wonder what she is/was doing. You assume she has been cheating so you develop the mentality that “hell if she can do it so can I” and that is when everything really goes downhill.

 

All of this could have been avoided if you just handled your business. The things you did to sweep her off her feet continue to do them. If you randomly sent gifts (roses, balloons, etc.) in the beginning, then do not start waiting on special occasions (birthdays, holidays) to send them now! Many woman can appreciate a man who understands the little things in life really make them smile. Of course they like rings and bracelets and things of that nature but deep inside it makes them smile more when a small token of love is given from the heart.

 

Over the years I have learned that a woman just wants to feel wanted. She wants a guy who notices things about her. Point out that she has a new hair style or acknowledge the new perfume or lotion she is wearing. Chances are she made the change and really hopes that you notice it.. Someone who is going to tell her how beautiful she is. She also wants someone who appreciates what she does for him. If she cooks you dinner on a regular basis, washes your clothes, etc fellas just say thank you once in a while. Better yet how about you reciprocate. How about you cook for her, or if you can’t cook take her out (and im not talking applebee’s either), or try this one order in a good meal and cuddle up and watch a movie.

 

I guess I said all of that to say fellas if you got a good woman APPRECIATE HER. Make her feel special on days other than her birthday or Valentine’s Day. Make her feel like she is everything that you could ever want and need in a woman because in reality she probably is and if you don’t you will never get what you really want!!! Sorry for falling into the trap!!!

 

Proud to be a “Black” American

As I lay here excited about the historic events that will take place later today I realize how proud I am to be a “Black” American. Now don’t take that statement and assume that this is going to be a shot at the other ethnic groups because it is not that kind of party. But I mean why wouldn’t you be proud to be Black?!?!?! We are dominating the music industry holding down 3 of the top 5 spots on billboards top 100. We dominate in most sports. I’m just saying everyone knows about the NFL and NBA but what about golf (Tiger Woods), tennis (the Williams’ sisters), soccer, (Freddie Adu may get an argument from the David Becham fans but imma go with Freddie on this one) MLB (Barry Bonds most home runs of all time oh and Hank Aaron also a black man is number 2) what’s left hockey? Umm yea about that unfortunately we did more roller-skating than ice skating and besides our attitudes are too bad to give us a stick and let us fight. Lol We have one of the best naw let me change that we have the BEST talk show host ever in Oprah and Tyra is trying to set herself up to be her successor. (Ok maybe pushing it with Tyra but you get the point) We have always had the hottest and most interesting celebrity couples: Ike and Tina, Rick James and Teena Marie (I said interesting lol) Jay-Z and Beyonce’, The Obamas, and not to mention Darian and Ahhhh maybe one day. (Ok I’m done) The best speaker in MLK Jr. and now we are about to add President of the United States to this list WOW!!!! So yes I am excited and very proud to be a part of history. I am glad to see that centuries of hard work and dedication have not gone completely in vain. I am proud to see that we are edging closer and closer to achieving “the dream”!!! We as a people have struggled since they brought us over here as slaves! We struggled when Lincoln freed the slaves! We struggled going through the Underground Railroad trying to escape sure death in hopes of one day rising up and showing what we can really do! We struggled from the time when Ms. Parks wouldn’t give up her seat to the time Dr. King made his speech!! We struggled through the Rodney King riots and hell we are still struggling with Dr. Ian’s diets!! But it’s because of that struggle that on this day of this year we can stand and cheer because Mr. Barack Obama and his visions of change are finally here!!! Now black people let’s not be naïve, yes we are staring at change but there is so much more for us to achieve!!! Now as we take this day and pat each other on the back let us not forget that “they” ain’t giving us no slack!!!  Now I can’t speak for he or she but I’m proud to be a “BLACK” American why wouldn’t I be?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

Memphis: A Big City Wannabe?

Ok what’s really going on in my city? You know I hear mayor Herenton saying Memphis is a big city and we are doing big things but I am simply not seeing it!!! Ok true enough he got us a professional sports team, (which we half support) a new arena, and the downtown beautification project seems to be going well but what about the small stuff. I’m talking about the things that the citizens of Memphis deal with on a daily basis. Ok thanks Mayor Herenton for this new arena but hey did we think about the parking garage that goes along with it? How about the congestion downtown because the geniuses of the Memphis police department want to block off all the streets downtown to “control” traffic. Does anyone else see the issue with blocking off the streets that would make it easier to navigate to and from downtown? Another thing why does it take a long time to do ANYTHING dealing with the government in Memphis? I was at the unemployment office for 5 eff’n hours last week. In case you missed it FIVE hours to speak to someone about getting unemployment. The bad part about the whole ordeal is that when I finally went to the back I was only back there maybe 15 minutes so what in the heck were they doing with the people before me. Furthermore on the unemployment website there is a link to file online in Memphis but when you click on it you get a message that says this feature is not available at this time!!! How stupid is that? This is 2009 and we (the city of Memphis, Shelby county, or whoever is in charge of that page cannot get a freakin’ weblink to work) I am starting to believe the Memphis government has the Memphis club mentality we will make sure we have a long line so people will want to come in!!! Speaking of the clubs here why does it take so long for “security” to get the people in the clubs? I mean with everything that goes on in these clubs the searches they do cannot be that thorough. I have been to clubs and other parties in other cities (New Orleans, Atlanta, Chicago, even Nashville) and have never waited in line as long as I did in Memphis. That was back in my younger days I don’t club nearly as much as I used to so I really don’t care what they do now. I am concerned about the quality of nightlife/entertainment for those who do not like clubs or for those who want to be in a laid back adult atmosphere. What are those people to do for fun? I am currently dating a woman who hates clubs but she loves music. Where are we supposed to go to just chill have a drink and maybe do a little dancing and just enjoy each other’s company? The movies and dinner get old really quick and this young lady has said she wants a man who will date her for 50 years. Not meaning she wants to just date forever meaning that if something blossoms and we settle down she still wants her and her husband to date and do the things that got them to that point and I can respect that but in Memphis damn that may be hard!!! The only thing big city about Memphis is the crime rate!! Is it me or do we (Memphis) need to step our game off before we start shooting off and want to be recognized as a big city????

What has happened to the music industry?

On Saturday I enjoyed an afternoon of listening to music with a good friend. While sitting around we got to pulling out cds and listening to “old school” music. Now when I say old school I’m not talking about our parents music (which a lot of us grew up on) I’m talking our old “new” school. Artists like H-Town (knockin’ da boots) Tevin Campbell, Tony Toni Tone, Uncle Sam, Sam Salter, Jesse Powell, Shai, Donnell Jones, Rome, Jodeci, Mint Condition (breaking my heart) okay ya’ll get the picture. Don’t get me wrong we enjoyed the rap as well DJ Jimi (“where they at” and “there’s some garden tools in this house” lmao, the old no limit ( silk the shocker, master p, mia x the pre lil romeo era lol), a couple of Memphis classics Mr. Big (eightball and MJG) getting it on (playa fly) act like you don’t know. Songs for the most part that would either get your party started or make you wanna grab somebody and hold em’ close!!! What happened to that? These days any ole Joe off the street can make a song and “hot” 107 (and I use that word hot very loosely) will give it plenty of airtime. Now I’m not hating if this is how they making money go ahead and do ya thang but damn come with some substance. I mean come on “that baby don’t look like me WTF? The song was funny and all but geez should it really be in every hour hell OR everyday rotation?  Soulja boy give me a break how many times could you possibly crank anything?!!! And also what’s up with all of the nursery rhyme hooks? Is there a new rap manual out that says in order to make a hit you have to find a lullaby and make a song out of it?!!! Lets not talk about the R&B circuit. True enough we have good young talented artists like Jazmine Sullivan and Trey Songz to go along with seasoned vets like Alicia Keys, Ne-Yo, Beyonce’, Musiq Soulchild, Mary J., Usher, John Legend etc.who can flat out sang and entertain. There are also sleepers like Pretty Willie, Urban Mystic, and Raheem Devaughn who can hold there own and set a mood LOL but the thing that kills me are these jokers who just mess R&B all up!!! The perfect example is Pretty Ricky. First off how you gone name yourself Pretty Ricky and there are like 35 of ya’ll in the group. Secondly are you singers or rappers? Unfortunately someone listens to their garbage so they stay around. Last thing and I’m going to leave them alone where in the heck do you get off remaking classics like H-Town’s “knocking da boots” and adding rap verses to it *sigh* and what may be worse is On BET the new member had the nerve to start singing Mint Condition’s pretty brown eyes and sounded a hot mess!!!! I’m sorry but if this is the quality product being put out these days I see why limewire and other file sharing sites are so big how could you expect someone to spend his or her hard earned money on this garbage. What happened to the days of putting a 12 or 13 song cd in and letting it play. Now you buy a cd with 16-20 songs on it and may only listen to 3… the madness must stop somebody help me out!!!!