S.I.N.G.L.E. Ladies?

The song “single ladies” by Beyonce became a ladies anthem and had women going crazy telling their men and ex men “if you like/liked it then you should/should have put a ring on it”. Well my question is are you really deserving of that ring that you so eagerly desire? Here is a brief summary of some of the qualities that I think “single ladies” should possess. Enjoy!

S.exy
I don’t care what anyone says LOOKS MATTER!! Now with that being said determining if a person is sexy or not is more than physical attributes. To me how attractive a woman is lies deeper than her voluptuous breasts, tantalizing thighs, or that smile that can make any man melt like a snowman in July. Being sexy is also the way a woman carries herself. The way she walks, talks, and dresses are other things that help determine if a woman is sexy or not. Women who speak with sense and don’t have to resort to dropping “F bombs” or other such words to get their point across are a real turn on!! A woman who knows how to accentuate certain positive assets without giving a peep show is very sexy! Ladies its ok to wear your dresses and skirts but when its so short your butt is hanging out then it goes from being sexy to being slutty!! You should be able to accentuate certain physical features while leaving something to the imagination!

I.ndependent
What are you bringing to the table? There is nothing worse than trying to get to know someone and find out they have nothing to offer! If you are going to “make yourself available” at least make sure you are worth the investment when someone does come along. You don’t have to own a home or have 2, 3, 4 cars but you do need to at least have a job and be able to provide for yourself. I mean realistically how can you expect someone to want to build with you when the position you are in will only subtract from them?

N.urturer
The goal of any meaningful relationship should be the lifetime commitment of marriage. As a potential mate are you a nurturer. Do you have the ability to bring a child into the world and raise them in a loving and stable environment? Are you willing to be a preacher, teacher, mother, father, friend, lover, confidant. When times get hard will you still be around to be the backbone to your mate? Are you strong enough to help them pick up the pieces when things fall apart?

G.oal Oriented
You should always have some goals in life that you want to achieve. There should be a nice mixture of personal and career aspirations. These goals could be something as small as to stop using profanity as much or something more elaborate such as becoming the CEO of your own company. You should always strive and push yourself to be the best person that you can be no matter what!!

L.ovable
Are you lovable? Are you willing to allow a deserving person to come into your life and shower you with the desire, affection, and love that you crave? If not what’s the purpose of you trying to be in a relationship? Who honestly wants to build with a person who has a predetermined notion that this is not going to work because of something that happened in the past?

E.ntertaining
No one wants to be with a boring person. Who wants to sit around and go through repetitive routines day after day after day? Entertainment doesn’t necessarily mean you have to go out every day! Being entertaining could be something as simple as being able to hold a decent conversation. Any fool is able to have a good time while out in public on the weekend! The thing that sets the great apart from the good is the ability to create fun, entertaining moments when there seemingly is nothing to do. For example its a stormy wednesday evening and your plans are ruined because of the weather. Do you disappoint and say something like I guess we will have to reschedule for another day or can you come up with another plan that involves you spending quality time with the person you are trying to get to know?

So now that I have let you in on some of the qualities that I think “single ladies” should possess…are you S.I.N.G.L.E.?

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