1st off this is not about anyone in particular just my thoughts at the time if it offends anyone or gets under you skin I’m sorry!!! That’s my disclaimer lol
Alright so I wrote a blog a while back entitled “Man Up” and needless to say I received a lot of feed back from the women oh but you had to know your day was coming! I hate when a woman walks around feeling sorry for herself because some nothing ass dude has “broken her heart”! I think that is the biggest yet most frequently used bunch of bs I have ever heard! I mean for real ok it didn’t work out build a bridge and get over that ish! Why would you sit around and waste time and tears while the guy has moved on and is enjoying his life without you?? The funny thing is a lot of women claim they are mad and are frustrated with the guy in their life yet they can’t seem to let go. Why do women continue to settle for a “man” that they say do not treat them right? Why would you want to be second or even third place for a guy whom you know has no intention of changing or settling down with you? How can you continue to let a guy talk bad to you and blatantly do stuff to disrespect you and then say “I know he loves me” or things like “it wasn’t always like this”? True enough in the beginning it may have been all good but what about now? If it is not all good now why stick around? I’m not saying just up and run when stuff gets bad because if you do that you will never have anything meaningful in life but what I am saying is if you are in a situation where you have tried to reason and you have given the benefit of the doubt and things seem to be getting worse why are you there? The saying is kind of cliché’ but you can do bad all by yourself. Seriously though its time out for all of the excuses that you make for a man. If it is not what you want or a situation that you know you should not be in then GET OUT!! It may be hard at first with the lonely nights and stuff like that but in the long run you will feel better about yourself and you will probably start to find more time to focus on doing the things that make you happy.
Another thing that irks me is a triflin’ woman!! Ladies get it together at least make an effort to keep yourself up. There is nothing sexier to me than a woman who reeks of confidence and who keeps her hair, hands, and toes done! Ladies take time out for yourself and get pampered! Go and have a spa day where you have a nice massage or something of that nature. That to me shows that you really care about yourself! Now don’t get it twisted I’m not saying go and cake on piles of make up because that ish really is not cute. I would rather see you with the natural beauty if you want to put on a little eye liner or some lip liner or something that’s cool, but for these women who are walking around with all this excess makeup on looking like a damn clown come on CUT IT OUT it is not cute!!
I also get tired of women blaming their shortcomings on their “baby daddy”. If you have a child by a dude that is not in your child’s life true enough it is an unfortunate situation but by all means don’t use that as an excuse!! I can guarantee that you are not the first “single” parent and you damn sure won’t be the last. Being a single parent should actually motivate you more to go out and work harder to provide the kind of life that you want for you and your child. It’s funny how so many women say “my baby daddy aint shit” and “I am struggling trying to raise this/these child/children on my own” yet you still allow him to come through late night and have “adult time” with you…why? Chances are you knew the dude was nothing before you laid up with him and got pregnant so why are you so shocked that he is not there now? It is also frustrating when a woman claims she can barely make ends meet yet she is in the club every week! Of course by her going to the club she has to go and buy a new outfit and sit at the beauty shop to get the do did but her child is walking around looking like a raggedy Ann doll. Hair all nappy, old clothing, and worn shoes!! For real…where are your priorities?
Come on ladies woman up stop making excuses and saying what you cannot do and why you cannot do it!! Take time out re-evaluate the things and people in your life and if you feel as if they do not fit or they are not doing you any good get rid of it!! Instead of chasing up behind a man and making things so “easy” sit back get yourself together and make us work! Believe me when I tell you this THE ONES WHO ARE REALLY INTERESTED IN GETTING TO KNOW YOU WILL WORK TO TEAR DOWN WHATEVER WALLS YOU HAVE BUILT!! Now everyone has slip ups there are times when you just have “chemistry” and you want to have an “experience” with a guy but if that is the case then take it for what it is and stop thinking that you are “the one” because really that is not the case!!
To the women who “get it” congratulations!! You realize that when the time is right your prince charming will come along probably when you least expect it and he will sweep you off of your feet and there will be no doubt that he is Mr. Right! You understand what being a woman is all about and you know how to keep a man happy. Although you may not be quite where you want to be right now you do have GOALS and you are working to ACHIEVE those goals. You understand that stock options and a retirement plan are more important than getting in clubs free or riding on 24’s. You are not running up behind a man and letting him dictate your life because you have your priorities together and you are focused on living your life for you, loving yourself, and working on your future! Women you are the BEST THING that has ever happened to man act like it and quit settling for less than you are truly worth!!
