All of the hoopla over February 14th is really becoming sickening!! I mean really people go out and spend an abundance of money to supposedly show someone how much they care about them on that day!! Whoop dee eff’n doo lol No seriously though a year is 365 days so what about the other 364 days? Do you not still love that person or is it just not acceptable to show that you love them on that day? It’s funny because once upon a time valentine’s day was one of my favorite holidays because I believed in love and everything that love had to offer but here lately I’m starting to see that love really doesn’t mean much of anything! When I was younger I was taught love conquers all and if you love yourself and/or whoever you are with you can make it through anything. As I have gotten older and especially recently I am starting to see that this is not true. There is nothing that can work on love alone. Love doesn’t pay bills! Love doesn’t get you ahead in life nor does it get you a college degree. Naw what gets you what you want out of life is not love its hard-work, dedication, and sacrifice!!! I’m also realizing it is even harder to love someone when in reality they don’t want to be loved!!! I’m the type of guy that if I really love someone I am willing to sacrifice whatever I need to in order to make that person happy and those who really know me know this to be true. A lot of people talk about wanting to have somebody to love them for them, someone to share forever with, and other “bs” like that but how many of them really mean it? There are things that love can do. Love can really make you feel unappreciated!! When in love you do things that you normally wouldn’t do and if the person you are in love with is not putting forth the same effort or does not love you then you really are getting a raw deal!!! Love can make you lose things like your mind, (needing therapy after being heartbroken) your life (having to start over after being left in a bad situation) and possibly your best friend. So I apologize now if I seem a bit negative towards February 14th but at this point I really do not have a reason to celebrate Valentine’s Day because seemingly love has passed me up again so far this year!! For all of the people in love right now I wish you all the very best as you celebrate valentine’s day but for those of you who are like me I want to be the first to wish you a HAPPY ANTI-LOVE DAY
February 12, 2009 at 6:43 pm |
I feel you homie… That’s why I’m in love with myself so much! Great post though!
February 12, 2009 at 6:51 pm |
‘Preciate it
February 13, 2009 at 4:17 am |
Talk about Valentines Bahumbug!!!!!!
“Naw what gets you what you want out of life is not love its hard-work, dedication, and sacrifice!!!” These are three things that love are built on! Don’t let a bad situation, put a sour taste in your mouth about one of life’s most beautiful things. (Yea, I know. Like I’m one to talk)
Secondly, don’t take it out on this special day! If you do your research, remember that the original Valentine’s Day had nothing to do with love!
When I was in Martin, on Feb. 14th, I celebrated Happy S.A.D. (Single Awareness Day)!!!
February 13, 2009 at 4:50 pm |
Thanks brown sugar and lol@ S.A.D.!!
February 13, 2009 at 5:00 pm |
Now Tony, you are in love with yourself because you are conceited.
I agree with this post. Why is/should one freakin day illustrate your love for a person? My feelings on this are if I am that special to you then I should receive the same attention every month! If I am so special why doesn’t the day I was born (30th) of every month stand out to you? Should you think “This is the day she was born on…let me show her how glad I am that she is here!!” Now I know that is a little extreme but I am just making a point here. Why is that the ONLY day men feel “required” to show appreciation? If that is the only day you can show love and appreciation then screw you and Valentine’s Day.
* Disclaimer* The term you is merely used as a pronoun for all men and is not referring to any man in particular!
With that said. After a woman has been hurt or deeply scared by a man, why should she even want to think about a day such as Valentine’s day?? Yea, yea, I know the whole “I didn’t do it” “Don’t blame me for what the last man did” spills, but if you don’t want to be blamed, don’t attempt to MAKE a scared woman love you. Things happen and change in time and until that woman has healed, there is nothing you can do to make it better. You may be able to temporarily relieve the pain, but notice the key word is TEMPORARILY!!! You cannot make things happen when you want them to!
That is just my take on the situation.
February 13, 2009 at 5:17 pm |
Ummm Lethal did you mean to say scarred or did you really mean scared? LOLOLOL, she is soooo going to get me for that!
Yea, Tony is conceited I second that motion.
I think that often times we mistake a strong feeling (maybe even gas) for love. It’s natural to feel strongly for a person, and it’s also natural for a man who cares deeply for a women to want to “fix” her. When in actuality all he can do is support her when she needs the lift and be that constant friend that she needs to help her get over the Wednesday-like hump. I learned recently that love shouldn’t hurt, physically, mentally, or emotionally. That’s why I strongly feel that sometimes we mistake strong feelings or “liking real hard” as Mario so tastefully wrote it, for love.
Just my five cents!
February 16, 2009 at 12:01 am |
wow after all those wonderful and very deep responses i feel so out of p lace with my response………………..which is…………………………………………………… Thank for the ANTI-LOVE DAY shout-out, my sentiments exactly!!!!!
but Tara that S.A.D. thing is quite cool i might grasp on to that nest year!!!
October 19, 2009 at 2:22 am |
Me personally I use to think V-day was only 4 suckas! LoL! No but seriously I understand where u coming from every yr I use to dread seeing that day coming! I get to thinking why am I still by myself, I see people shopping 4 gifts & surprises for there loved 1s. But I thought why everybody so excited about 1 day out of the yr. I guess they are not always told from that person that they are loved & appreciated. Even if I am single yrs & yrs to come I still have family who loves me. My son makes me a card every yr. and that’s all the love I need! He is truly the love of my life & he tells me everyday not just on Valentines Day! That makes me feel appreciated! It’s the little things that goes a long way! When u have that true relationship with God he will show u who is 4 u & who is not 4 u! Take your time & Listen to God! Your Happiness matters!
October 19, 2009 at 2:24 am |
God Loves U!